If there's one part of the body that causes more danger and destruction than a male species' private part, it's the tongue. It's the most morally ambiguous member of the human physique, useful for various situations, productive in any given time. Through it, we nurture ourselves physically and with it we speak what's on our mind. The tongue is a bodily instrument that can uplift, encourage and create good things, while at the same time, can emulate the demonic trio of stealing, killing and destroying.

Taming the tongue requires a lifestyle of extreme discipline, tremendous memory, and strict adherence to absolute principles. Keeping secrets, acknowledging what is confidential and not, recognizing what can and can't be said, privately or publicly, are certain guidelines any man must abide if he plans on keeping his mouth shut. Speaking the truth, explaining sincerely, and pinpointing what is false, are few measures that must be taken if he plans on making a positive impact when he opens his mouth. Using the tongue properly requires a holistic effort on anyone's part. He needs to not only concern himself of ensuring that it doesn't emit deadly odor, but he also needs to be careful not to emit something worse - deadly words, packaged as full-sentence lies and false statements.

In order to do this, he needs to know his boundaries. He needs to be enlightened that the tongue has it's limitation and boundaries and he doesn't need to speak his mind at all times. Depending on the timing, situation or nature of the event, the tongue must at many times be kept shut. If it's used, it must be for the purpose of building someone up or correcting what is wrong. Though it is entertaining, the tongue must never be used to enjoy something at anyone's expense. It's function must be applied to enhance something or someone or better yet, be enriching to the point that it can transform and turn things around for the good.

Before someone uses his tongue, he needs to ask himself - will saying it makes thing better? Or will it make things worse? Will speaking it steal someone of his joy, destroy someone's personal image or kill a relationship I have with a person? Is it worth using the tongue at all for this situation? Or must I just use my mind and think through it first?

The worst lie ever spoken to man is framed in this saying: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

Sticks and stones will break your bones and physically hurt you. It will injure you and for a period of time, it will cause pain. Depending on the gravity of the impact, sticks and stones use for a violent purpose can kill you. Words, on the other hand, will have to skip breaking your bones. It will be quick enough to cause pain, light enough to speed the process of injuring you permanently.

The tongue is a gift. Without it, we cannot eat, drink or speak what we must say. But being endowed with it is not a license to plant seeds of sorrow and pain. No, the tongue cannot cause unwanted pregnancy or be used for rape. It can do far worst than that: kill a person's spirit, dreams and self-respect, while he's still alive.